ghastly-h-crackers:

chombiechom:

lobisfemme:

dion-thesocialist:

I think tumblr has left a lot of us emotionally stunted. This is a great community for empowerment, catharsis, or coping, but those things aren’t recovery in and of themselves. Comparatively, they’re easy when compared to the painful self-reflection and real-world scenarios you’ll have to encounter on the road to true recovery. Not only does Tumblr not focus enough on recovery, but there’s almost a disdain here for the very notion.

There’s a lot of time spent validating everything. “Your symptoms are valid! Your responses are valid! Your depression is valid! Your coping is valid!” Well, yeah, all that stuff is definitely valid, and understanding that is important step in recovery, but it’s certainly not the final step. All that stuff is valid in the same way a baby chewing on a teething ring is valid, and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about if your recovery is still in its infancy, but Tumblr almost encourages you to stay there, to never grow out of it.

There’s a difference between what’s valid and what’s healthy, what’s best for you. I recently saw a post that validated people who stay in their room all day. Is that a valid response to anxiety? Sure. Is it a healthy response? Hell no, and there isn’t a person on Earth who can convincingly make the argument that the best thing you can do for your anxiety is to never leave your room.

Or how about those “how to care for a _________” posts? They’ve got some great tips there, and a lot of what they say is true, but you cannot reasonably expect people to coddle your issues, insecurities, or self-perceived inadequacies. Your recovery has to come from you. It has to be a difficult decision you make with yourself and carry through with because you need it. Your recovery can’t come from hoping other people will validate you.

No one should be ashamed of where they are in their recovery process, but there’s also no reason why you should be in the same place with your issues as you were in 2010.

Your final goal is not validation. It isn’t empowerment. It isn’t finding a way to get through the day. It isn’t being comfortable with your problems, nor is it accepting that they’ll never go away. The final goal is health. The final goal is happiness. The final goal is contentment. The final goal is recovery.

Bolded is mine. This covers a lot of things I hate about Tumblr, as their process of validating mental illnesses tends to make people believe that validating = curing. 

I think one of the things that struck me most unhealthy about Tumblr was the cries demanding people give “trigger warnings” before posting.

As is well known by now a few years ago I had my life come to a screeching halt by a complete mental breakdown that left me hospitalized for some time. The culprit was undiagnosed OCD, the grand-daddy of all anxiety disorders. Of all the labours in my life my recovery was the hardest and it is by no means complete and I don’t know that it ever will be. It is a daily struggle measured in inches.

Things that can trigger an anxiety or full blown panic attack in me are many and varied and sometimes remarkably mundane. It is a full time job for me to deal with these triggers. But one of the first things I learned in therapy is that job is mine and mine alone. It is not for my family nor friends and most certainly not for the world at large much less random people on the internet to protect me from being exposed to the things that can trigger my anxiety. It is for me to deal with my anxiety in a way that does not cause harm to myself. DBT and CBT (that is cognitive behaviour therapy, not cock and ball torture…) gave me the tools I need to do the work I must do. Isolating myself from my anxieties wasn’t the answer and demanding the world around me bend to deflect my anxieties is not only selfish, it’s unhealthy. Unhealthy for me and unhealthy for the people around me.

Now not every day am I the master of my own personal demons. There are some days I just need to lock myself away in my room. There are many, many times I have to pick and choose my battles. But in the grand sense I am making the effort to be on the move, onward and upward. I am carving out my place in the world where I can be as healthy and productive as I can.

Things I wish I knew when I started tumbling

gallifreyansquid:

karatam:

colsandbradders:

i am so slow

you can look at the posts on a certain day?

jfc

url.tumblr.com/day/2012/12/25 <- what you posted last christmas

omfg chRIST WHY DIDN’T I KNOW THIS BEFORE????

makes my fckn life EASIER

#WHY ISN’T THIS SHIT IN THE HELP SECTION

BECAUSE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING OF USE IS EVER IN THE HELP SECTION

I MUST SPREAD THE WORD TO MY FOLLOWERS

staff:

gaypasta:

tumblr has many post types, such as e-mail, letter, phone book, padlock, slightly smaller padlock, keyboard and good ol’ play

These post types proved unpopular, and we have since restored the old ones.

Have a good weekend, Tumblr.

whoredinarygirl:

bagmilk:

reblog this post for nothing in your inbox

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wow it works every time

scaredude:

halloweevee:

people are actually complaining about the new post logos as if that means anything for anything

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yeah btu the thing is nobodys complaining about “new icons” because of design. were complaining because they literally make no sense??????? and its not just the logos at the top so uhm

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THEY WENT BACK JUST AS FAST AS THEY SHOWED UP

it was testing they always do this those new icons will be back mark my words

half those pictures dont even make sense

why is an envelope on photos

why are link and chat locked

why is audio a goddamn computer keyboard

its not an update that sets u back (like the sidebars when u click an url fiasco for example) progress but its more confusing than anything

UHM..

ponett:

cottna:

text post tags

2014

oh. my god

tealrallythong:

Text posts in the spirit of investigative journalist Miles Upshur.

I made these instead of doing school stuff.

& don’t you dare try to tell me these are OOC.  

… okay the bi one was there for me.

inktrap:

Romantically Apocalyptic + text posts

dunpkin:

theoppositeofamnesiaa:

dunpkin:

someone please make a meme masterpost of every tumblr meme ever

http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Memes/Tumblr

it doesn’t have all of them but it has a lot of them

this is so surreal honestly its like traveling through time

why is everything tiny